I know EXACTLY how you feel…

By: Margot Walsh

A question we get all the time is: “I really want to join a Femnest circle… but I’m scared. I’m nervous to share. I don’t know if I’m ready to be vulnerable. Can I still come?” And I just want to say, with my whole heart, OMG YES! Of course you can still join. You do not have to be someone who is comfortable sharing. You do not have to have the perfect words. You don’t have to show up as the most open or evolved version of yourself. You can come exactly as you are.

And honestly, I was so, so much in your shoes. I remember feeling that exact same way. I remember sitting in circles with women and feeling nervous, feeling small, feeling like everyone else had it more figured out than me. I remember being in Zoom rooms with sweaty palms, heart racing, wondering if I belonged there, wondering if I would ever speak up. I was scared to share parts of myself. I was scared I’d sound dumb or way off base. And I just want you to know that you are not alone in that.

One thing I always say is that if there is even the tiniest ping of desire in you, if there is something nudging you toward a circle, if you feel curious or excited or interested, that matters. That little nudge is not random. That is your intuition. That is something in you saying, “This might be for me.” And it is actually so beautiful that it comes with nervousness, because that’s often how growth feels. It’s exciting and scary at the same time. And usually, it’s just beyond our comfort zone that we grow the most.

You may not even realize yet what one circle could open up for you. Not just that night, but long-term. Being in spaces with women, being witnessed, being held, being around honesty and truth… it changes you. It changed me completely. It changed how I show up in every room I walk into. It changed how I trust myself. It changed how I use my voice. And it didn’t happen overnight. It happened because I kept doing the hard thing. I kept showing up, even when I was scared.

And I want you to hear this clearly: you do not have to talk. You can come and just listen. Listening is enough. Presence is enough. That can be your very first step. You can let it be small. You can let it be gentle. And over time, if and when it feels right, you might share a little. And then a little more. And every single time you come back, something shifts. Every circle helps you grow.

I’m still growing. There is no place of arrival. I still do things that scare me. But I can say with certainty that circle has been one of the most powerful spaces for my evolution. So if you are feeling that curiosity but also fear, please join anyway. Come exactly as you are. Come with the nerves. Come with the desire. Come with the quiet. We would truly, truly love to have you.

Margot is the Co-founder of Femnest and serves as the Director of Growth & Connection. She is a life coach and the creator of Beyond: Discover Who You Are Beyond the Stress, a group coaching program that helps women move past overwhelm and into clarity, calm, and confidence. To learn more about working with her or to join the next round of Beyond, send her a message!